Episode 36: Noah Scott - How to Build Meaningful Connections With People

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Hello, beautiful humans.
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So today's episode is about

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Action exploration and
determination.

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My guest is Noah, Scott, founder
and CEO of the big possible as

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the host of multiple Retreats
around the world.

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Connecting high-profile
entrepreneurs and speakers.

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Noah has become a master of
creating powerfully immersive

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experiences.
He is deeply motivated by The

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Human Experience and has spent
over a decade.

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Mastering the art of connection.
Welcome Noah, thank you so much

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for having me.
It's great to be here.

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Oh my gosh.
A delight and I understand

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you're involved area right now.
Yes, I'm in this, it's such a

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picturesque town called Sofia
the capital Bulgaria but I'll

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bounce around.
I'll spent about a month in one

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country and before this was
Romania and I've been doing this

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for about 10 months now and it's
really just open my eyes in

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terms of how interesting the
different cultures can be how to

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make friends quickly in a new
city.

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It's been pretty wild but yeah I
love that now.

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Okay.
So you like Human connection,

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and every human has a story.
Let us hear about yours.

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Well, I think, you know, my
story is quite interesting.

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I think I started my 20s as a
total delinquent.

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I would pretty much party every
night.

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I took me 10 years to graduate
college, but I finally did

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change.
My major is like seven times

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started multiple side hustles
along the way and one day I was

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like 29 and I was completely
just, I've got out of a breakup

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and I was like, what am I doing
with my life?

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So, I decided to walk across
Japan, which I spoke Japanese at

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the time, I did this backpacking
trip from Kyoto to Tokyo.

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It was 500 kilometers.
I was like, my Eat.

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Pray Love to figure out what am
I doing with my life and along

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the way I found something?
That was the first real big

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project that I finished.
And I think that courage to like

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stick through something set, a
goal and even how hard it was.

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I ran out of money halfway
through, I had to work in Saga

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factories and Farms but I
finished and that feeling was so

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So addicted that I I set myself
a hard goal and I went through

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all the way to the end and I did
it.

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I carried that with me.
And after that started a

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production company and Lala
quickly grew that to where we

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were one of the latest top short
film companies produced a

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feature film gotten to this
point where okay, I was done

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with that.
It was just there wasn't a

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future started working in
marketing for like five years

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and that was like the safe job
where I suddenly lost all my

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testosterone, my Social Circle
disappeared.

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And I'm like, back to this spot.
I was You know, decade ago when

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I'm wrapping up my twenties like
what am I doing?

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And I think that's kind of when
I got the spark to start the big

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possible which really is about
connection.

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What I realized looking back at
my time in my business as an

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entrepreneur, my favorite
moments were when I was hosting

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dinner parties, where I would
have friends from different

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Industries, other entrepreneurs,
come and we'd share a meal

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together.
Those moments of connection were

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the brightest and so I wanted to
create an experience that would

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take that to a whole new level
and that's kind of what the the

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business is now.
Where are we?

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A host Retreats around the
world.

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That's exceptional and a lot of
your conversations are very

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stimulating.
They're not the ordinary ones

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and you talk about you know
being human and we're all human

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in this together and what a
great opportunity to live and

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your words.
Why is it so great to be human?

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We get to dream.
That is so unique.

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We could have been anything.
We could have been Rock.

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We could have been a dog.
We could have been born

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somewhere in space without air,
but we got to be human and I

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think the ability to give
yourself a goal.

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In it.
And then take the actions to

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make it happen.
Is something that's so unique to

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us.
We also get to love.

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We also get to connect with
other people and there's a gift

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that we have every single day
that we have breath and to be

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conscious of that breath and to
control it.

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And then, to make all that
happen.

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It's with that gratitude that we
can now say, okay with this

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dream that I have, how can I
help other people to find the

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same sense of peace that I'm
feeling right now?

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And how can I have the moments
that I'm here?

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Be filled with more of that
gratitude.

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So for me, that's That's kind of
what being human is.

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It's the ability to dream and
the ability to affect the world

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around us.
Why is it that you think that

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humans are here?
What are we here for that is a

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really interesting question.
If I knew the answer, maybe we

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finds out that answer.
Maybe we're living it down.

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I think, I think so.
It's krishnamurti speaks a lot

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about the wisdom that we can
learn from just experiencing and

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not trying to fill our head and
say we know all the answers.

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But to actually be present and
to look and see the answer in

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the grass to the answer in the
wind, that's blowing it on our

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face Marcus, Aurelius talks,
that the reason a good fortune

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is created by being a good
person and doing good, deeds.

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I think a lot of those answers
are good enough to use and I

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think if we don't really know
it, we can go to Nature and we

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can feel it.
And if there's enough Clarity

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out there to give us at least a
grounded, feeling of acceptance,

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for our purpose to be here and I
think that's enough.

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Beautiful.
Beautiful.

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And as humans we have this
innate ability to get to know

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ourselves and our lives are
filled with the journey back to

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ourselves, I often will say and
along the way we get to

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self-express, we get to manifest
our life.

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And one of the ways that you've
been able to manifest your life

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is through Visual Arts and
through other ways and channels,

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and your voice and whatnot.
But curious about the visual

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arts perspective and how that
might have informed your life.

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Mmm, it awoken something that
I've always had a skill to be

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creative.
I started my career making

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videos, done photography, had a
fashion line, so I've always

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kind of had this Knack but I
never was formally trained one

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year.
I don't know when I started

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doing this.
Maybe about seven years ago, I

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started doing these things where
I would have New Year's.

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I would create something.
That would be a life-changing

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goal and I would try to
accomplish that within a year.

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One year I'm sitting on my
ex-girlfriends couch and I say,

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okay, you know what, I'm going
to do this year, I'm gonna learn

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how to paint and I'm gonna hold
an exhibit.

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Never actually painted, I knew I
was creative, but I didn't have

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to pan coordination to do it and
it, I was Trying to solve this

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problem.
Like how do I approach this?

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And it January went by, I had
some ideas for a concept

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February by.
I still didn't really know, I

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knew what I wanted to express.
I wanted to express the beauty

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of the human body and this sort
of Journey between life and

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death.
And I was one day I was at the

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Museum and I was looking at this
piece it was by Christopher wool

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and the Simplicity of it was
just black and white but there

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was a texture that really
brought me in there was like I

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looked at the what he used to
do.

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It was silk screen ink and on
linen and I was like, wait a

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second.
I know how Silk screen.

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So I connected the dots back
from when I did t-shirts.

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What I taught myself how to
silkscreen?

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And I'm like, oh now I know I
have a process now and then I

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gave myself constraints.
Okay, I'm gonna because I don't

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know anything about painting.
I'm just going to give myself

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two colors, black and white.
And now I have my process.

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I'm a great photographer.
So I just started shooting.

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I did photography and then I
would bring those images and I'd

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alter them on Photoshop and then
I went into the darkroom used a

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and Emulsion to make these silk
screens and because I did it by

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Hand.
They were kind of like

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everything was imperfect and so
you know, I put it on the thing

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and the first one came out and I
was like, whoa, that is cool.

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And so the first painting I did
was it sold and I'm like great

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and then since I had a process,
I could just replicate and each

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piece became better.
And I sure I had some things

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that kind of turned out like
garbage but that's okay.

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They were still cool.
But the most interesting thing

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that I learned out of that was,
I think it was the acceptance

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that I am.
Creative.

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I think that was something that
being able to embrace that skill

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of using the hands and something
I thought capable of doing.

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Now, I've given myself this
mission to do it.

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It unlocked so much more
confidence in all the other

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creative aspects of my work
graphic design suddenly.

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I elevated.
My graphic design to a whole new

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level.
My video went to a whole new

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level.
Even my writing, like everything

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was just like, wait, you have
the skill?

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And because I consistently said
that I wasn't good at this.

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I wasn't good at this.
I was stunting my My own

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ability.
And so by giving myself the

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permission to try suddenly I
just said, oh actually I have

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this Talent, let me embrace this
and sometimes that's all it

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takes, you know, to your point.
We do tell ourselves these

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scripts.
Oh I'm not good at this, or I

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could never do that or I'm
afraid to do this.

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And if we only gave ourselves
the opportunity for a little bit

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of evidence to show through,
then it could just completely

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release the floodgates and and
then you start to re script your

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life by saying.
I'm the kind of person that is

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creative.
I am the And a person that is

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going to try new things, I am
the kind of person that won't

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let anything stop me and
everything changes from there.

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Isn't that amazing, the mindset
with a little bit of validation

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that can help along the way to
keep you, you know, going and

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motivating to continue to try
for sure.

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Well, so now, you are a
full-time nomadic entrepreneur.

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What has traveling the world
taught, you?

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I think it's taught me a lot to
appreciate the connections that

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you make along the way because
every single time Time I landed

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a new city.
I don't know anyone and there

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are countless people who are
ready to speak to you, but you

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had to put the initiative out
and it's a lot of work.

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Even I'm an extrovert.
I still get to these moments

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where I'm, you know, surrounded
by strangers.

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And I'm like how do I get to
this point where I feel like I'm

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not alone anymore and it, you
know, so that appreciation for

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the people that you meet in your
life, really?

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They're like the lights in the
darkness, it really is this

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every single moment, There's an
opportunity to speak to

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somebody.
And so, like what?

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I'm talking to those Barista at
the cafe, I really appreciate

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the interaction that I have a
lot more than I did.

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When I was just in the
day-to-day grind because

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everything is new.
Everything is novel, and even

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just the simplest things like
walking on the street now are

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filled with so much more color
more energy.

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And also I think there's a
different approach to habits.

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I would always have a good
morning routine for example or

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like get discipline but the
middle of the day who knows what

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would happen by resetting my
routine.

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Every single time when I moved
to a new city my cues are

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completely different.
The environment is so it gives

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me the opportunity to now
intentionally create habits

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every single month.
And look at the habits that I've

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had.
Like, I picked up and be like,

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wait, this isn't really serving
me.

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Let me let go of that.
I've noticed that I was eating

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out much more when I was in
Romania.

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I'm like, wait, I need to start
cooking more.

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So here in Bulgaria.
I'm like doing my grocery

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shopping and I'm cooking a lot
more.

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It's easy way to give yourself
that reflection because you're

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always stimulated by new things.
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I travel I'm always first Amazed
by the beauty of our Earth.

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There's always something new in
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environment and even in what man
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and the history that goes along
with is always a new and

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interesting vibe there.
And I love what you said about

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even walking up to somebody that
you don't know, it could be a

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barista or it could be somebody
in the street to ask for help

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and instead of thinking about it
as a transaction, which I think

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a lot of people live their
lives, very transactionally or

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conditionally and really
stepping into that moments of

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Dating that person that that
energy that's old.

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That's right there in front of
you and developing a connection,

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which is what you're all about.
Now, you know, you've mastered

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that you really understand that
it's extraordinary think about

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the odds of what coming across
anybody in your lifetime and

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actually developing a
relationship or even being able

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to say hi billions, Millions to
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If you think about it, space in
this, In Our Lifetime that we

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get the opportunity.
As I appreciate so much the

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opportunity to have this podcast
with you, what are the odds that

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we would have ever have
connected and Matt, and been

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able Have this glorious
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I do not ever take anything like
that for granted and even if you

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don't have the ability to
travel, there are ways to break

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up those habits that you talked
about, even if it means

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rearranging the furniture in
your apartment or something,

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that makes a little bit of a
shift so that you can really

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step out of all of those mind,
less things that you are doing

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and become more mindful.
I think that's actually a good

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habit to start to recreate
yourself each month.

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That's not a bad thing.
I love that.

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Yeah, it's funny that you
brought that up about this

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synchronous.
City of the moment that we have

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every day I had this moment, I
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90% of the time there's nobody
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One day I had this uh.this was
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ago.
I had this guy that, you know,

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he was traveling big muscular,
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He comes in and, you know, we
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the same time that we're both in
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I think this is the odds are
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but then we start having a
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philosophical.
And he said something that, you

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know, that was so powerful that
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Day.
I was like, you know your story

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is not yours to keep to
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Your story is there so that you
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And I'm like, wow, this is
amazing and I started thinking

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like what had to have happened
for me to be in this moment and

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that I could have been in a mood
and I didn't talk but because we

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talk because we opened up and we
were vulnerable now, we've got

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this like just awesome
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I don't even have his dice
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We don't have our phones in sun
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exciting more vulnerable sitting
in a sauna with another large

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man.
And Striking up a conversation.

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That's beautiful.
Wow.

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So you know coming off of this
pandemic so many people are

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hungry for real in real life
connection, though.

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It remains elusive for a lot of
people, particularly our young

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people who a lot of them.
Now, you know that they've gone

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through high school or even
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They haven't had the opportunity
to have real good connections

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during formative years of their
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What are some of the bulletproof
ways that people can use to

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build deep connections?
I think the first really big

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thing is about how we listen.
And especially right now, we're

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so filled with the instant
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So one thing I love to do is to
leave my phone at home as much

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as possible.
So when I go to the gym, leave

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my phone at home, when I go for
a walk, sometimes you just leave

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your phone at home and that
creates more presence.

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conversation, the last thing you

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want to do is have your phone on
the table because even if you

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see it, it's still going to pull
you away and try as much as

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possible to use active
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That means really engaged to
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Is telling you give them the
space to finish what they're

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saying.
And then when they're done say

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something, thank you for sharing
that acknowledge that they've

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given a portion of their soul,
and then you can add some

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commentary.
I think that active listening is

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the biggest one, and then I
think, the questions we ask are

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also a big part of how we can
get deep quickly.

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So often we just say the same
questions, what do you do for

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work?
How's your day?

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And if you just kind of even
just listen to some of the

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questions that Jennifer's asking
it's like wow, you can really

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pull some powerful And then tie
a couple that with the active

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listening and now you're just
connecting deeply.

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And there's a framework.
I use.

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Also those with to host dinner
parties, dinner parties are some

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of the best ways because the
place in which you have a

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conversation, has a lot of
significance.

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There's a book called The Art of
gathering, which really talks

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about how to bring in person
experiences together and

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actually have them be
meaningful.

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So if you hang out in a
nightclub you're not going to

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have very good conversation.
There's just no way.

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But if you have a dinner party,
Now it's intimate, your scent.

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It's also multi-sensory, right?
You connecting with the food.

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You have to taste, you have the
sites, you have to Smells the

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touch.
So anytime you can actually

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allow yourself to be more
present and share that

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experience with someone else.
It's going to ignite so much on

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a deeper level.
And so, yeah, the dinner

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parties, powerful powerful
experience.

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Going on adventures with people,
the out of the comfort zone away

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from this sort of the mundane,
even if it's going for a walk,

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rather than having a meeting in
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Have a, do I do Walking meeting
or, you know, bring your friend

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out of the house rather than
sitting at the TV.

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There's a lot of ways that just
changing the environment can

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give you an opportunity to share
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Absolutely.
There are so many opportunities

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that I've come across over
dinner parties or cocktail hours

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versus just sitting in a
boardroom or, you know, a

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regular boring meeting with four
walls, where there's no joy and

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there's no passion in there.
But when you put a beautiful

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glass of wine in front of a
person or an amazing meal,

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wonderful church history.
Oh my God, forget about it.

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It's like then you're sharing at
the moment of joy to get on, you

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really get to know that person
much more intimately than you

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would in a setting.
Where everybody feels like they

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have to kind of act in a more
professional, or closed way.

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So, yeah, I love that
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For especially for young people
to, like, step into these areas

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in these places where you can
really connect over things that

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you love things of Joy moments
of just, I so there's also one

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other element to that is little
bit more difficult to

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encapsulate, but there's a
concept that Per connection

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happens.
Over shared struggle and not

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just shared experiences, but
shared struggle.

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So if you can introduce some
purpose behind the Gathering,

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that will enable everyone to
come with an intention to solve

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a problem or to overcome
something and, you know, giving

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a thread of Common Ground.
Sometimes over struggle, as

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we're coming together to solve
that it allows us to also have

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more things to talk about
understand people on a deeper

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level.
So sometimes if you can, if you

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can also work that in Now you've
got this magic recipe to just

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get to know people really
deeply.

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Yeah, really bonding over their
shared experiences and the

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feelings of the struggle or
Astra a feeling of Joy.

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Doesn't have to be a struggle,
it could be just a shared

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feeling I shared emotion, what
great advice with so much fear

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swirling in the world.
How can somebody leaned into

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risk-taking and developing a big
vision for their lives?

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Like, some people are really
comfortable why they are so like

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you know they don't really feel
like they have to stretch too.

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Out of their comfort zone.
Maybe they've been, you know,

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raised in a wonderful Suburban
neighborhood and have been given

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quite a lot of opportunities
before them and they're like,

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well I don't really feel like
they need to take risks but yet

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some people who either hit rock
bottom or to your point, you

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know, you come out of a really
dramatic relationship, maybe

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there was a breakup.
It's like what do I have to lose

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and then you just go for it.
So that often is a catalyst for

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that but what about the person
who is you know, kind of like

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happy with their lives?
You know, what do you recommend

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in terms of taking risks from
that standpoint?

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Yeah, it's interesting.
Resting because the most

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dangerous spot to be in is
complacency it's hard to take a

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risk.
But what happens is you're going

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to eventually get to a point if
we're not growing.

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We're actually dying.
And that's it's a little bit

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harder to accept but you know I
look at a lot of my friends who

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are comfortable and what ends up
happening is there's a sadness

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or a complacency that starts to
eat away at them after a long

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time and easy way to introduce
risk into your life is through

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Adventure, whether that's
picking up a new Copy whether

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that's traveling a little bit
more, whether that's picking up

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a project.
Like maybe there's a cause that

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is important to you.
And it's only through these

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moments where we can devote
herself entirely to the task at

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hand that we can really truly be
happy.

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I think there's a lot of
research that's been done

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Mikhail.
Csikszentmihalyi.

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He's a, he's a guy that talks
about flow speaks a lot about

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how the people that when they're
fully engaged in a project

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that's when they're the
happiest.

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And I think the biggest danger
we have is Comfort, Comfort is

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going to keep us Us from
challenging ourselves.

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And eventually, what's going to
happen is we're going to start

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to fizzle out burnout.
Sure things might be

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comfortable, but if we're not
actively putting challenge in

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front of us.
There's a danger that we're

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going to live with a life of
regret.

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The only way to minimize regret
is by Taking Chances taking

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risks.
Every day should be a bet.

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Every day should be a Gamble and
the more you roll, the dice, the

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more you start to understand the
patterns on the table.

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So there's always uncertainty.
There's always things that are

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going to go wrong.
But if you approach it like, you

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know, hey, I'm Going to
safeguard This Bat.

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Like, I know when my stop loss
is in stocks, they have a thing

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where you, if you invest at like
$95, you can set it up so that

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if the price goes down to 90,
you'll sell your shares.

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You do that across a lot of
different things.

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You're going to protect yourself
in the long run from having made

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bad decisions, but it's much
better to try.

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And to take the risk, then to do
nothing because what happens is

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along the way, as we take those
risks, we get more feedback and

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we're able to learn, we're able
to grow and we're able to

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expand, you start small start
with something that maybe He

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just a passion project start
with maybe a weekly hobby start

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with asking people out on a date
every day, whatever thing that

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you want to grow or get better
at just show up every day with

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his consistent.
I'm going to try to get a little

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bit better at this and before
you know it you start your skin

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gets thicker.
You're able to embrace the risk

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a little bit more and you know
that every time you take a risk

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there's a reward waiting for
you.

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I love how you described that
because there are certainly

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people who I've spoken to who
are like yeah.

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I like the consistency I like
to.

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Reliable.
I like the steadiness of a life

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that doesn't have a lot of highs
and lows and ups and downs and

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that's their Vibe.
I would say that there is a

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difference between being
innately.

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Curious versus being somebody
who's like a total, you know,

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adrenaline junkie is going to
go, you know, bungee jumping.

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It's not that there is a
Continuum, there is a spectrum

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of your curiosity, which will
prevent you from a life of

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stagnation and complacency and
the ultimate worst thing, which

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is boredom, you know, we know,
He wants to live a boring life.

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I think that sense of curiosity
helps to get you to a place

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where you are continuously
learning, you're continuously

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improving your continuing to
grow rather than dying as you

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say.
So beautifully, put beautifully

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played.
I would love for you to tell us

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about these Retreats that you
run clearly.

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It's taking you all over the
world and you're creating a lot

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of magic for a lot of people.
So tell us all about it.

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Yeah, the biggest reason I'm so
excited about that isn't so much

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about getting out to have a
vacation and You know, be

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surrounded by luxury
environment.

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It's about the lives that were
changing.

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When people show up and
immediately you can see the

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relief from leaving the World
Behind and showing up with a

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group of intentional
like-minded, entrepreneurs, who

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are all there to learn to grow
to find that perspective and

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peace of mind.
And then by the end of it, it's

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like I have people coming up
with tears in their eyes telling

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me how much they appreciate the
experience how this has changed

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their life.
People forging business

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Partnerships with each other.
During the experience helping

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each other get clients.
Just, that aspect is what really

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keeps me going.
The reality of knowing that

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together, we're able to achieve
so much more than on our own.

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When we look at the world
through the lens of Leverage,

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The more leverage we have, the
more impact we're going to be

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able to make.
But some of the biggest Leverage

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is that's out.
There is actually Community, we

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don't have to know all the
answers but if we know someone

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who knows the answer now we've
shortcutted the learning curve.

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And you know, I like to think of
all the That are coming to my

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treats as Pioneers.
They're all exploring.

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The unknown going out on their
own Horizons but they're sharing

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the maps of that Horizon with
the other guests that are there.

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So what we'll do is, we'll have
four days of staying in a luxury

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environment.
So I'll rent a beautiful Villa

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on Airbnb or just through some
of my contacts will have a chef

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create culinary masterpieces.
Just like tantalizing, the taste

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buds.
Giving this authentic experience

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of the local Cuisine
performances from local artists,

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but also have these like, Ted
Style Presentations where

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there's a speaker and they're
talking about business.

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We're talking about growth or
talking about human connection

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and then you're in this
environment where we create

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this, Alchemy for connection and
so there's deep questions,

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there's guided workshops.
But then the best part, my

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favorite part is there's
Adventure.

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So we're going out, we're going
to cenotes for going to the

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beach, where were celebrated at
night.

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So that's kind of the experience
in a nutshell.

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It's about showing up shedding
the skin of the day-to-day with

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a community of other people who
are also with that same

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intention.
And then Learning while they're

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getting the perspective to craft
a Life vision and then going

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home, empowered with the people
who are going to be able to make

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it happen.
For those people who are

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listening who haven't been to a
retreat like this, I strongly

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encourage you to look in the
show notes and look at the big

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possible so that you can find
out more information about what

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Noah's doing here.
It is extremely special.

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For those of you who feel like
you are ready for a change in

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your life.
If you are ready for a

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transformation, this could be
exactly what.

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What you are looking for, it
could be exactly what your soul

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is hungry for, in order to make
those connections to step out of

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your comfort zone to get into a
place where you can meet people

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who can help you on your next
adventure.

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And then you're having this
incredible Adventure.

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As you're doing it's thank you
so much for sharing your words

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of wisdom with us all the way
from Bulgaria.

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I wish you much success and
abundance and the rest of your

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life and I know that we will be
forever connected.

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Thank you so much on forbidden
pleasure.