Episode 16: Joe Templin – I Died And I Have ADHD, So I Don’t Waste A Minute

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Hello, beautiful humans.
Welcome to role models.

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Juicy conversations with
beautiful humans.

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I'm Jennifer Norman founder of
the human Beauty movement and

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your host, my guest today is
Joe, templin, Joe is a human

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Kaizen expert and author.
He has more degrees than a

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thermometer and is an
ultra-marathoner, and A pendant

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geek, a special-needs single
dad, and a martial artist.

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Basically a human Swiss army
knife.

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His book everyday Excellence was
the Kindle number one, new

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release in professional
development.

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I'm so happy to introduce him to
you.

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So welcome, Joe, Jennifer glad
to be here, you know, I don't

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know why I am on a podcast about
beautiful humans because I got

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the face made for radio.
That is so not true, of course

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we always say beauty.
Is from within, but I think

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everybody is beautiful and of
the more unique the better.

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That's what I say.
I think that there's always

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something really magical about
different faces.

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So I think that's amusing, but
at any rate, please share

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something about yourself, share
anything about yourself that you

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think that we would like to know
what's your background?

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And how did you become that?
Beautiful human that you are

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today.
So I had to awesome parents.

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Encouraged education, my mom,
the nun who I tell jokes about.

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Yes, my mom was a nun and then
Had six kids.

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So that's an entirely different,
interesting story and my dad was

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the first person in his family.
To go, to college was Army ROTC

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got commission and then three
months later was the Bay of

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Pigs.
So, here we go.

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Thinking that the world's going
to end, and that's how he

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started his military career.
He got out during Vietnam and

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found his consulting firm.
So, here I have these two very

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strong influences, that always
actually encouraged us to

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respect.
Authority.

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But not blatantly accept it and
to always desire to learn and

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better ourselves.
And so that is the foundation

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from which my entire life
literally is built off of.

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Yeah, you pretty much had a life
filled with discipline and

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Order, didn't you?
It was discipline order but I

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needed it because I'm ADHD and
back in the 70s.

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We had diagnosed people that we
just said that they were high

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energy but that gave me the
overall structure to be able to

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explore within and be able to
pursue what interested me.

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So whether it was physics,
psychology poetry philosophy,

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martial arts music, my parents
always encouraged me to explore

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and learn everything that I
could and it is I think that

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combination of having
reinforcement and discipline.

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But also Freedom, that Creates a
dichotomy that allows for

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growth.
Yeah.

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And you said that you had to
awesome parents.

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And so that's wonderful.
That it seems like you had such

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a good relationship with them
and that they were very

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encouraging of you pursuing.
All of these different

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interests.
Is that right?

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Yes.
I mean my mom bought us bugs

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when we were kids.
My mom was the youngest seven.

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Kids, she grew up on a farm.
So, she also taught us to shoot.

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She taught me how to hotwire a
car.

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She taught me how to distill
alcohol.

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Very handy.
As a nun to be able to have her

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car into still alcohol.
Yeah, no.

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So these are just like some of
these random facts and tools

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that in other parts of my life
later on, when I was in college,

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or when I was mental officer
came into play, but it was just

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this insatiable desire to learn.
I think I was like eight years

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old but I told my mom, I wanted
to learn everything there was to

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learn, and she's told me, well,
better get to work and the

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encyclopedias over there.
She also Something that

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infuriated me when I was a kid,
if I couldn't spell something or

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know what, then she told me go,
look it up.

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I'm like, if I could spell it, I
would be able to look it up, so

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she didn't like that.
But so did back then exactly.

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And so, the modern equivalent of
that is GTS, Google that stuff.

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So that's why I tell my kids all
the time, but no thing, my mom

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taught me when I was reading
early on, was always have index

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cards because if you don't know
what something means, you write

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it down and then you can go look
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Later, or you can take notes and
so that was something that in

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college my fraternity encouraged
and even to this day, I always

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have either my phone on me and
take notes or if I'm actually

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wearing suits.
Like today I can have index

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cards in the pocket but this is
literally how I run the

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complexity of my life is just
writing down the four or five.

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Most important things that I
need to do for the day, cross

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them off, as I get through them.
And then I David Letterman and

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throw in the garbage.
I already threw Today.

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So hopefully your third in the
recycling.

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Yeah.
Okay.

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We'll just say that you do
fantastic.

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So that is amazing that, you
know, it seems like you were

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just curious.
You had all of this curiosity

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and you were willing to go
through all of the details and

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the iterations in the
permutations to find out

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everything that you wanted to
know about any subject at all.

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And you know, this is one thing
that I encourage people are in

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high school.
Land College just afterwards is

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now's the time to figure out who
you are college is the greatest,

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you know, Smorgasbord of all
time, I mean you can try 500

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different types of tacos.
You can try a half dozen

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different martial arts, you can
taste every food that exists on

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the planet.
You can study different

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philosophies.
You can audit classes that are

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completely outside your major
that might be of interest and so

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you can learn and develop and an
example that I use of why this

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is important.
Was there was this one guy who

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actually dropped out of college,
but he hung around a took all

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the like, what a 10 different
classes that interest them, and

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he went and took a calligraphy
class that guy was Steve Jobs

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and because of that class, we
end up having all the cool fonts

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on the Macintosh and eventually
all the other computer system.

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So as Steve Jobs said you can't
connect the dots looking

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forward.
It's only looking back that you

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can make some sort of orry and
figure it out.

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So that is one of the things
that I encourage your listeners.

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Is I have teenage boys as you
mentioned.

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And so the analogy I use is
everything in Life's a giant

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video.
We have this massive Quest that

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we're on.
We all want to get to the

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castle, Beat the Boss, you know
save the princess, get the

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treasure and all that and to do
that though, it's not

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necessarily a linear path.
You have to take all these side

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quests.
The side quest might be going

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into the tavern.
In talking to weird old men

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which is typically me, you know,
to get some information.

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It might be going into the end
and just resting that's taking a

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couple of days of vacation to
recharge your body.

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It might be.
You need to get some more gold.

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So you take a side gig or you
work for a company for a few

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years to get resources and
relationships that are going to

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come into play.
When you go back to your main

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quest, whatever that is so early
on your 20s and 30s is figuring

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out what that question really
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Starting to build the mindset
and skill sets to ultimately

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achieve it.
Yeah for sure I love that

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analogy and I often have used
that myself is that, you know,

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life is meant to be fun.
So think of it as a game and so

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thinking of it as a video game
is highly appropriate,

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especially in this day and age,
where people are wondering if

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we're living in The Matrix or
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Anyway, if we were living in The
Matrix, I want plug on it and be

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able to go I know Kung Fu take
the blue pill I don't want to

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know.
Well, tell us then because, you

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know, you got multiple degrees
as you had mentioned.

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Can you share some of the things
that you had pursued as far as

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your education and whatnot and
before you went into the

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military?
So I actually never went into

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the military because I was early
as Mac as a kid.

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In fact, for my asthma is
legally dead at 10:00.

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I got better obviously in the
early 90s, there was no

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exemption for asthma at that
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Those came later on.
So, even though I was competing

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for a world championship in
Taekwondo, I still was not

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allowed to enter the military.
So I worked for DARPA.

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I did research in a lab or
cousin Intel officer.

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I taught individuals in the
military, so I taught

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self-defense to them, even
though I technically wasn't

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allowed to be one of them, I
taught them.

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So this is one way as Muhammad.
Ali says, service is the rent

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that you pay for your room here
on Earth.

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This is one of the ways that I
was able to serve and help.

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Individuals, which is something
that I inherited from my parents

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lll.
Always, as my mom always said,

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if you're having a bad day, go
help somebody else out.

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Yeah.
And just so that's one of the

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things that I did.
But I started college at 13,

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because my parents said Paul was
too young to start college and

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some of my friends from that
point are still some of my

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closest friends on the earth.
Some of these people are really,

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really smart and so I was at
Hopkins and then I end up going

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to Rensselaer Polytechnic, RPI,
oldest engineering school in the

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English-speaking World majored
in I'd physics and

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Communications and minored in
astronomy and literature and

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whole bunch of other things.
And I was writing that entire

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time.
So writing has been component of

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who I am for 35 plus years.
Same way that martial arts has

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been a component of who I am for
that long finish that up

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started, my MBA working on my
degree, in engineering physics,

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fish, all that stuff up.
Went into the professional world

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doing financial planning.
I passed the cfp exam and At

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this point, written thousands of
review, questions for it, got

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multiple degrees and finance
like my chart advisor of

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philanthropy, chartered
Financial Consultant and to

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picking up my masters in
executive counseling.

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And really the four Ps, are
there to help explain the world.

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In my opinion, four peas are
physics.

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Philosophy, psychology and
poetry and those four different

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mindsets essentially.
Just to try and answer the same

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set of questions but from
completely different

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perspectives.
And so, one of the things that I

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do actually is I shift between
different mindsets on a regular

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basis and try and utilize, at
least multiple of them every

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single day, because if you can
actually look at a situation

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from two different perspectives,
simultaneously, you generally

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get a better picture of what's
going on.

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Same way that we have two eyes
to give us depth perception.

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Can you give an example?
Advil of maybe a problem that

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you would tackle from one way
from maybe a Philosophers

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perspective versus a physics
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So for example, if I'm working
with a business owner and they

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are trying to do something with
their business, maybe they're

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trying to land a new client,
maybe they're trying to get

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funding.
Maybe they're trying to figure

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out what area to move into for a
new product line or something

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like that, we talk.
About it.

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Both from the point of view of
physics which is Hardcore,

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mathematical problem solving
modeling and things like that.

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But then like this actually
happened this morning was

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talking with somebody that
advised.

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I had talked to him from the
philosophy, point of view of, if

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you do X, how are you going to
feel?

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If you do, why, how are you
going to feel which path is the

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path of Integrity for you?
So we looked at it from a pure

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Financial which is more.
Nicole and thus physics point of

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view, but we also explored it
from that philosophy point of

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view, he's like, damn, you
template make me ask tough

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questions.
That's awesome.

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I went to Medical a really good
problem.

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Would have been the art of the
poh is not say everything is the

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old saying, so I would just like
leave the pregnant pause there

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and make him very uncomfortable
as he contemplates it.

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A lot of ways.
Sighs.

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Yeah, but as Robin Williams
said, in Dead Poets Society

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poetry's there to movement, so
there's awful.

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That's not untrue.
Well, it's interesting because I

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agree with you.
I think, you know, looking at a

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problem.
Number one, you can't do it.

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allows you to Liberty of just
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get two different Avenues and
things that you hadn't

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necessarily or would not have
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Thought of if you would just
thinking vary linearly to your

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points like the physics or the
mathematical roots and people

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rely on that, don't they just
like the physics, the math of

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the middle of the numbers people
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biased in some ways and every
situation is like life or an

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individual them.
All's we're like a diamond,

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there's multiple different
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different things, different
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increases our understanding.
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improve our appreciation of the
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Absolutely seeing things from
all different angles and then

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you find something uncovered,
just like I see your beauty and

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you say you have a face for
radio.

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See, you know what, I got a
sense of humor.

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Or so, that's a great thing.
If you can't laugh at yourself,

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you know, you're again.
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So, tell me about this little
aspects of your aspirations, the

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martial, arts, and doing
marathons and things like that.

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How did you get involved with?
Just going for all of these, you

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know, more interesting and
determined types of physical

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activity?
As I say, I'm not naturally

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talented in any way, shape, or
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As I said, I was severely
asthmatic.

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I was legally dead when I was 10
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below.
Basically, anybody else's,

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however, one of the things about
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you don't screw around anymore,
you know, as my friends joke I

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burn the candle at both ends and
in the middle of a flamethrower

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and so I use all 86400 seconds
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In fact, I tried multitask so I
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because it's not like you can
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Them tomorrow or next week you
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particular day.
So my martial arts started

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because there was a bunch of
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kid sister so my mom signed my
sister's up for Taekwondo and

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then I started a couple weeks
later and for some reason it

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just fit with me with my ADHD
the hyper-focus that was

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something that for some reason I
could hyper-focus on and being

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Irish I'm sort of thick-headed
it'll always and so growing up

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on the farm.
I had the natural Farm Boy Work

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ethic and this, just a naturally
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So, I found ways to multitask.
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stretch my legs out in the
stretch machine and sit there,

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and do my Latin homework while
watching TV and stuff like that.

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And so I just really got into
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And so, I got to the point where
every single morning I would get

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up, and I would train.
And 35, plus years later every

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single morning, I still get up
and I train every single day, I

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still throw the basic punches
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Decades ago, 100 plus times each
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At this point I've thrown over
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I don't even need to think about
and I'm still faster and people

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half my age because I refuse to
give in and acknowledge that

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leveling up chronologically.
And so you know I just continue

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to focus on that from there.
I drifted into a playing

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volleyball.
Played Junior Olympic.

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I played in college, I actually
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something completely different.
I was mascot.

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everything else.
I started running to supplement

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my other sports and I swore to
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I'm going to do a marathon by
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I'm never going to do one.
I did my first one about month

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beforehand.
Then I did another Marathon

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about a year later I'm like this
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I hate running.
I'm never going to do another

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Marathon again because it takes
too much sacrifice.

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In terms of the time I'm tired
I'm always hungry always hungry,

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you know their recovery and all
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So I put aside Add the long,
long distance running was

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running shorter distances, but
then my friends from high school

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about 7 years ago, called me
like hey we got something crazy

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that, you know, you might be
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So I started doing a Ragnar's
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team relay races where you get
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the first fan starts.
Somebody runs and then everybody

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rides in the van.
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switch Runners.
And so you go through all six

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people, then you go and you rest
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gym.
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other Vans were cycling through.
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then the second one first and
second one, you run, three legs

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and you run anywhere from 15 to
20 ish miles and I got into

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doing that I did about 20 of
those but then my one running

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team during covid when all the
races were canceller like okay

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we need to do something crazy so
we don't go insane.

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So we started doing like virtual
Ragnar's and all this and then

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we decide.
Hey let's do a backyard Ultra.

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So every hour you'd run, one,
two or three miles in the next

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hour you doing.
Again, next, are you again?

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So I committed to the screen
miles and unfortunately they

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start at nine.
I thought we started at 5:00

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a.m. so I had a four-hour Head
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So I had 12 miles more than they
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Then by mid-afternoon I'm at
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I'm like, you know what, why
don't I just stretch this out

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and do a double Marathon because
from a mathematics, point of

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view, two negatives, make a
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So if I did two marathons,
technically I didn't do a single

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Marathon.
It was okay.

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Yes.
I know I would bizarre logic.

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And when you're like 40 miles
into a run, your mind starts

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saying weird things.
So that was my first ultra

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marathon and one of the big
things I learned during that I

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was about 40 miles into it, I
was completely physically

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exhausted.
I was starting to go a little

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weird mentally which happens
deep into longer on my emotional

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reserves were almost tapped out
and what my friends called me

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and she was going through a
major crisis, emotional crisis.

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And so I shifted all my focus
Asan to her while I was still

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shuffling along because I wasn't
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And I spent the next two hours
trying to talk her off the ledge

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and get her through her
emotional things, and that's how

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I end up getting through the
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ultramarathon was by focusing on
somebody else as opposed to

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myself my pain.
And that's how I was able to

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complete it and afterwards as
I'm, you know, sitting there

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having a beer in the shower
because shower bills, the best

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thing in the world especially
after You miles and I'm like,

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you know what, with a little
more training, I could actually

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do this better.
And so, six months later, I

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actually started earlier had
better nutrition.

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I train little bit bar, and I
ended up doing 100 kilometers.

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So, 10 miles more in four hours
less, wow.

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So right now, I'm training for a
72 mile one in November.

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Oh my goodness, that is a lot on
the body.

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Yeah.
My physiotherapist like gets mad

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at me.
She puts me back together again.

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And she's like, oh, Okay, you
know you're limited today you

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can only do like seven miles
today.

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Like really come on.
Well, that is extraordinary

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because it's just seems like you
know every time that you cross

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off something on your list you
wanted like best yourself, you

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want to do a little bit more,
and I don't know if it's

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something that, you know,
consciously do, but it's subtle

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like, well, if I've done that,
then I need to do this next

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logical step.
I need to do this next logical

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step and you don't really think
about the like it as a goal unto

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itself.
Perhaps, it's just like, yeah,

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let's Do it.
And, you know, that's very much

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a martial arts or Runner sort of
mentality, you know trained in

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the martial arts and you get one
belt rank your training for the

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next one, you Fay you compete in
one tournament your next morning

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your training again because it's
there's no finish line for those

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races.
It's the constant desire to

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improve which is one of the
concepts behind every day

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Excellence.
Is if you can get just a little

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bit better every day, what can
you become over time?

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Where can we go?
And so it's that concept some of

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my friends joke, acted to you
know competition and Challenge

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and there might be some truth in
that but it is just the

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continuous chance to see what
else we can accomplish.

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Hmm.
So that's the major theme of the

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book is that, you know, the
everyday Excellence is unjust

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like the constant B of
improvement that you can do no

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matter what they are in your
life, right?

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And it's little things, every
single A, we make somewhere

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around 10,000 micro decisions
and a lot of them are routine.

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If we can make, just a couple of
better micro choices per day,

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then the arrow for that day,
it's pointing up instead of

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pointing down and, as clausius
tells Deadpool and the movie,

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I'm a big comic book nerd by the
like, four or five choices

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difference between being a hero
or villain.

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Now, for those of us without
superpowers, it's those daily,

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tiny things, 45, better choices,
you know, do I Eat the healthy

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snack, or do I have the donor?
I love donuts.

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So, you know, that's a difficult
one for me, but you can also set

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up your environment to default
better choices.

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So, for example, if you've got
problem that you drank too much

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soda, okay, don't have soda in
the house.

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So you're stuck with water, tea
coffee, you know, some a better

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option.
If you have problem that you

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keep going on your phone to a
places that you shouldn't go,

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whether it's a game that waste
your time.

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More if you dating app on there
that really shouldn't have

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delete it, then you're not
tempted.

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You don't even have to expend
any energy to have discipline,

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the choice, just completely
disappears.

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And this is why I say things
that Feller end up winning Nobel

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prize in economics for is
decision-making.

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Theory, concept of nudge of
making it so that it's easier to

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make better decisions.
And if you can do that, then you

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have more mental bandwidth for
the more important things that

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you can accomplish.
More.

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But then your routines which
make up 75 plus percent of our

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day are better and move you in
the right direction.

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That's why you should have your
running shoes, next to the bed

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and your your workout clothes.
So you roll out of bed and your

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trip over them and so you put
them on instead of having to go

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and get them out of the drawer,
the closet and have that extra

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couple of steps which make it so
that you're less likely to make

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the good choice.
Yeah, and that's the basis

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between other great books like
Tomic habits and evolve Atomic

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habits.
Yeah.

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Thrive at Arianna Huffington.
I'm, they're very much into

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like, the micro steps is, like,
what are those very easily?

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Achievable like little tiny
things that you can do to move

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the needle every single day to
make those.

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Those improvements that can have
overtime, accumulative and

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dramatic effect on your life.
Did James clears concept of

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habit, stacking something that I
actually utilized in writing the

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book and I still have a habit
stack.

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I get up in the morning.
I grabbed my half a cup of

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coffee.
As it's ready to go.

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And I turn on the coffee pot,
which I prepped the night

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before.
I sit down, I brain dump

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anything that was in my brain.
So I just write for a couple of

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minutes.
Then.

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I read a couple of different
things right now, it's the daily

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laws, by Robert Greene last
year, it was daily stoic.

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I read my copy of the book.
I post a couple of quick things

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and then I get up and I go work
out, I go run for 20 minutes,

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Taekwondo, whatever.
And then I sit down I write

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again because those workouts My
body was getting fully

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actualized for the day.
My mind was processing, the

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stuff that had just read in.
Typically I'm listening to

452
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:50,300
podcasts or audiobooks or
whatever when I'm working out.

453
00:24:50,300 --> 00:24:53,800
So I now have all this stuff
that jumbled around there was

454
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,400
working out and ready to then
write for another 20-30 minutes.

455
00:24:57,500 --> 00:25:02,100
And so I start that day at 4:15
in the morning so my 5:30 I've

456
00:25:02,100 --> 00:25:05,500
already accomplished enough to
set up my day that if my day

457
00:25:05,500 --> 00:25:08,400
ended right there, it would have
been pretty productive already.

458
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,500
And this is before anybody else
is there to help sit up.

459
00:25:12,100 --> 00:25:14,200
Yeah.
And I want to thank you, first

460
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:16,700
of all, for sharing with us,
your diagnosis.

461
00:25:16,700 --> 00:25:20,800
Because I think that when people
think about ADHD, they think

462
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,700
about things that might be
distractions, any think like,

463
00:25:23,700 --> 00:25:26,300
oh, if I'm on a path and then
all of a sudden, something else

464
00:25:26,300 --> 00:25:30,400
happens, then it kind of blows
up the day and they and they get

465
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,800
off track.
But in your being able to be

466
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:38,300
disciplined and recognizing your
ADHD, and taking that to a place

467
00:25:38,300 --> 00:25:41,300
where You're able to have it
stack, you're able to really

468
00:25:41,300 --> 00:25:44,500
create functionality and all of
these things that you love to do

469
00:25:44,500 --> 00:25:47,000
and compress the time and what
you're doing it, because you're

470
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:50,000
not messing around and doing all
these things that are weight,

471
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,800
quota quit wasting time, it
becomes extremely productive and

472
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:56,300
useful for you.
I also use a lot of techniques

473
00:25:56,300 --> 00:25:58,500
that I've learned over time.
So for example, I completely

474
00:25:58,500 --> 00:26:01,700
turn off the phone.
So like now my phone can't even

475
00:26:01,700 --> 00:26:05,400
rang to disturb us because it's
turned off completely.

476
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,300
You know what, the world's not
going to end in the our

477
00:26:07,300 --> 00:26:09,800
conversation that were having If
it does so be it.

478
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:13,600
Yeah, so it's not going to be
fatal during that time if I'm

479
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:17,800
going to work on a task but
whether it's writing or taking

480
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:22,000
care of some marketing things
all set a timer for 15 to 25

481
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,200
minutes.
It's called the Pomodoro method

482
00:26:24,300 --> 00:26:28,000
and just hammer away.
On if I'm writing, I don't need

483
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,200
internet to research stuff.
I literally turn the internet

484
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:35,100
off while go into a different
room and completely Focus.

485
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,400
So I'll be in a bare room so
there's nothing there too.

486
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:40,400
Stratton.
Now, am I going to try and do

487
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,500
that for three hours?
No, because I know my

488
00:26:42,500 --> 00:26:47,500
limitations, which is why things
that you learn over time but any

489
00:26:47,500 --> 00:26:50,400
one of us can do things for
10-15 minutes.

490
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,400
You just fly all out and get
hammer away.

491
00:26:53,900 --> 00:26:57,100
Then you get up and you do
something else and bicycling,

492
00:26:57,100 --> 00:27:01,100
that way going from task to task
to task, you can actually

493
00:27:01,100 --> 00:27:02,600
accomplish a lot of different
things.

494
00:27:02,900 --> 00:27:06,600
Now, there's something called
switching friction, you know,

495
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:11,000
the trick, the cost of mentally.
Shifting gears from X Y, but I

496
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:14,900
shift very quickly because of
the ADHD so I can go do, do do,

497
00:27:14,900 --> 00:27:19,100
do, do, do and just you go
through serial tasks quickly and

498
00:27:19,100 --> 00:27:21,400
then, you know, I do multitask
like a madman.

499
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,600
So if I'm making dinner I'm
listening to a podcast also.

500
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,700
Supervising the kids getting
their homework done know, if I'm

501
00:27:27,700 --> 00:27:31,200
working out, I'm listening to
something and I stopped every,

502
00:27:31,500 --> 00:27:34,500
you know, 10 minutes while I'm
running to take a note or write

503
00:27:34,500 --> 00:27:37,300
something down, you just because
my mind still processing.

504
00:27:37,500 --> 00:27:42,800
I wasn't I Our poems, and the
basis of multiple articles,

505
00:27:42,900 --> 00:27:45,600
while on a 5-mile run all the
time.

506
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:49,400
So then I just give myself a
voice memo or whatever and keep

507
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,600
going.
And so, capturing like that

508
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,600
allows us to then be able to
come back around and process as

509
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,900
appropriate.
So people should keep like a pad

510
00:27:57,900 --> 00:27:59,100
by their bed.
Wake up.

511
00:27:59,100 --> 00:28:00,900
You have an idea.
You just write it down and roll

512
00:28:00,900 --> 00:28:03,400
back over and go to sleep.
If they're in the morning it's

513
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:06,300
not lost in The Ether so that
you can move on forward.

514
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,300
So these are strategies that
That I have learned over time.

515
00:28:10,300 --> 00:28:14,700
And one of the things that I
found, because as we talked

516
00:28:14,700 --> 00:28:17,600
about previously, I've got to
special needs kids ones.

517
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:22,300
That Asperger's ones autistic is
reaching out to other members of

518
00:28:22,300 --> 00:28:25,700
the autism Community to find
strategies that they have found

519
00:28:25,700 --> 00:28:29,800
have worked with their kids.
So one thing that I actually

520
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,600
done to myself is something I
learned for using with my son,

521
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:35,300
if he's having a really bad day,
like you just got up on the

522
00:28:35,300 --> 00:28:37,500
wrong side of bed, things are
not going, right?

523
00:28:37,500 --> 00:28:39,800
I'm like, buddy, we're We're
hitting the reset button,

524
00:28:39,900 --> 00:28:42,400
literally hit the button, I
bring them back up into his

525
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:44,000
room.
We take his glasses off, we put

526
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:47,100
them on the nightstand, I tuck
them in.

527
00:28:47,100 --> 00:28:50,600
I swaddle them tight like you do
a baby because Ava autistic kid

528
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,800
like that pressure and my kids
still wears a mask because he

529
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,500
enjoys it so you just turn it on
by turn out the way.

530
00:28:56,500 --> 00:28:58,700
I'm like all right good night
walk out.

531
00:28:58,700 --> 00:29:02,400
I come back in about five
minutes later and I wake him up

532
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:07,400
again as if it's a brand new day
and about 50 to 60 percent of

533
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,200
the time it works.
Tell them to completely reset.

534
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,000
So why don't we?
As big people do that, you know

535
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,200
what?
If you're being cranky, SOB,

536
00:29:15,300 --> 00:29:17,200
turn out the lights, take a
five-minute power now.

537
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,500
Reset your day, like that
everybody around, you will be

538
00:29:20,500 --> 00:29:21,800
happy that you did.
Mmm.

539
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,300
Yeah, that's amazing.
And I love the concepts that you

540
00:29:25,300 --> 00:29:29,400
were just talking about of like
making sure that the things that

541
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:33,000
could potentially distract you
or derail your day, are not

542
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:37,000
within your limitations, we're
not within even your reach or

543
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,000
your grasp.
And so, you know, Turning off

544
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,000
the computer, you're turning off
the internet, you're turning off

545
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:42,300
your phone.
You're making sure that those

546
00:29:42,300 --> 00:29:45,400
aren't even available to you.
I kind of liken it to the idea

547
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,200
or the concept of vampire
energy.

548
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,600
They say, you know, when you
keep things plugged in, then

549
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,700
there's still sapping energy.
And so even like keeping a phone

550
00:29:52,700 --> 00:29:55,400
near you that could go off and
that you might hear rang.

551
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,100
I mean, your attention
automatically goes to that if

552
00:29:58,100 --> 00:30:01,600
you don't necessarily just shut
it down and remove that

553
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,900
distraction from your vicinity
and yeah.

554
00:30:04,900 --> 00:30:08,300
And I think it's actually a
pretty valuable tool that other

555
00:30:08,500 --> 00:30:10,900
People can probably employ
pretty easily if they have the

556
00:30:10,900 --> 00:30:14,700
discipline to do it, right?
And so, one of the things is

557
00:30:14,700 --> 00:30:17,300
that if you set up the
environment, you actually remove

558
00:30:17,300 --> 00:30:21,300
the necessity of discipline is
discipline means that I need to

559
00:30:21,300 --> 00:30:25,300
physically choose to do this,
but if that, this other thing is

560
00:30:25,300 --> 00:30:27,500
not even an option, it's
completely off the plate.

561
00:30:27,500 --> 00:30:29,900
Off the table, you can't spend
any NGO.

562
00:30:30,100 --> 00:30:33,700
So going back to Steve Jobs,
Steve Jobs wear the same outfit

563
00:30:33,700 --> 00:30:35,900
every single day.
He had different Verizon at the

564
00:30:35,908 --> 00:30:37,700
black turtleneck, had the black
jeans.

565
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:41,200
And why Because that way,
expended no mental energy.

566
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,300
I so it's literally just grab it
go.

567
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:46,600
I have, I think, one or two
shirts total dress shirts.

568
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:49,500
They're not white dress.
Shirts, blue, suits, black

569
00:30:49,500 --> 00:30:51,900
suits.
I now have a gray suit, you

570
00:30:51,900 --> 00:30:55,300
know, white shirts ties with
blue and them ties with black in

571
00:30:55,300 --> 00:30:58,800
them pies with gray in them.
So, it's literally, I can grab

572
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,500
any of it.
And I even after thinking, just

573
00:31:00,500 --> 00:31:04,100
go and so that, then freeze up
mental bandwidth.

574
00:31:04,100 --> 00:31:08,400
Every person has seven plus, or
minus two mental channels that

575
00:31:08,500 --> 00:31:12,100
We can utilize any one point.
And so like if you have three,

576
00:31:12,100 --> 00:31:13,700
kids guess what?
Typically, your kids are taking

577
00:31:13,700 --> 00:31:15,500
up three of them.
Unless, you know, they're off at

578
00:31:15,500 --> 00:31:18,500
school or whatever, they're off
at camp and so you can shut

579
00:31:18,500 --> 00:31:21,200
those down, okay, we're worried
about work or worried about your

580
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,300
significant other, so it
overwhelms us.

581
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:28,700
So being able to literally lay
out and have something out.

582
00:31:28,700 --> 00:31:30,800
Buddy else, take those
components.

583
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:33,900
This is why financial advisors
say I'm going to be your family

584
00:31:33,900 --> 00:31:37,200
CFO and they take the worry in
the responsibility away for

585
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,800
that.
This is why You Outsource and

586
00:31:39,808 --> 00:31:44,600
I'll always mentally and allows
you to then have more capacity

587
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:48,800
to focus on what you're doing.
So if you send the kids to their

588
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,400
grandparents, for a couple of
days, you're able to be that

589
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,800
much more productive because you
don't have the worry of what's

590
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,300
this kid doing.
Hey, it's too quiet in the house

591
00:31:57,300 --> 00:31:58,800
right now.
They're up to something.

592
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:03,100
You know, so it allows you to as
my son's, taekwondo Master says,

593
00:32:03,300 --> 00:32:06,600
focus and finish.
I love that concept.

594
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:09,200
Focus and finish.
What about Out for the people

595
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:12,200
who are just natural born
worriers, or they start to

596
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:16,500
ruminate and think I do have
some friends who are also ADHD

597
00:32:16,500 --> 00:32:20,300
and they may be on the spectrum
and their mind continues to play

598
00:32:20,300 --> 00:32:23,300
these mental gymnastics on them.
Even if something is not in the

599
00:32:23,300 --> 00:32:25,800
room or they don't necessarily
have to worry about it.

600
00:32:25,900 --> 00:32:29,300
It's the, it's almost like the
the complexity of choice, even

601
00:32:29,300 --> 00:32:31,700
if they have two choices,
they'll worry about making the

602
00:32:31,700 --> 00:32:34,600
wrong decision.
And so they'll just contemplate

603
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,500
that for the longest period of
time.

604
00:32:36,500 --> 00:32:40,100
And so we you know it's like
What would you say go?

605
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,100
There's a couple of things that
we can do and that's really

606
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:45,400
anxiety getting into play in
some ways.

607
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:47,900
So one of the things, it's like
you said it's just do it.

608
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,700
So if you can't make the
decision between two things and

609
00:32:51,700 --> 00:32:54,400
you thought about and thought
about flip a coin heads, you

610
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:55,900
know, first one Tails second
one.

611
00:32:56,100 --> 00:32:59,200
As you flip it, you're going to
find that you're rooting for one

612
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,900
side.
So the flipping of the coin is

613
00:33:01,900 --> 00:33:04,700
not the decision maker, the
flipping of the coordinate

614
00:33:04,700 --> 00:33:08,300
forces you into revealing, which
decision, you transgender.

615
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:13,600
Truly want they so heads, we do
exhales, we do I come on heads,

616
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:15,400
okay?
Well that's why I really want,

617
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:19,600
that's why I need to do, okay?
So it's really almost like the

618
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,300
exogenous event that forces you
to make the decision.

619
00:33:22,500 --> 00:33:24,400
That's what flipping the coin is
in some ways.

620
00:33:24,700 --> 00:33:28,500
Another thing is be like,
Star-Lord, have 12% of the plant

621
00:33:28,500 --> 00:33:29,800
because the plans going to
change as Mike.

622
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,400
Tyson says, Everybody's Got A
Plan until they get punched in

623
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:34,200
the face.
Anybody who's going on a long

624
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,600
road trip knows there's
construction.

625
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,500
There's detours as all this
stuff.

626
00:33:37,500 --> 00:33:40,400
So have the preliminary They're
a part of a plan and just start

627
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,000
going understanding that you're
going to figure it out.

628
00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:45,200
Understand that.
Okay, when I reach here, I'll

629
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,700
have, I'll figure out the next
couple of steps from there.

630
00:33:47,900 --> 00:33:50,700
So instead of looking at this
huge thing, I need to go from

631
00:33:50,700 --> 00:33:52,600
here to here.
This is how I break down

632
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:56,700
ultramarathons you know just
even thinking of doing 100 km is

633
00:33:56,700 --> 00:33:59,300
overwhelming.
I can do five kilometers, I can

634
00:33:59,300 --> 00:34:02,000
do a kilometer, I can go from
here to that corner.

635
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,900
That's not a big deal.
I'll just go to that corner and

636
00:34:04,900 --> 00:34:06,500
I'll figure out where I'm going
from there.

637
00:34:06,500 --> 00:34:09,300
And then another one, no one and
all Son, you realize that you've

638
00:34:09,300 --> 00:34:15,000
done 35 miles and so that's
another way to be able to get

639
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,199
through it.
Another thing for people who are

640
00:34:17,199 --> 00:34:20,800
really, anxious is write it
down, because you're anxious

641
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,600
because it's all rallying around
your head.

642
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:25,100
Why told you about writing down
my couple of key things, I need

643
00:34:25,100 --> 00:34:28,199
to accomplish, I write them down
and then I don't worry as I

644
00:34:28,199 --> 00:34:30,400
knock him off the list.
Like okay, awesome awesome.

645
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,199
Alright, although I'm in the
bonus round and then I can sit

646
00:34:33,199 --> 00:34:37,100
and think for a couple minutes
about Waters the next group of

647
00:34:37,100 --> 00:34:40,100
things that I should do.
And to make sure that I don't

648
00:34:40,100 --> 00:34:44,500
get overwhelmed by any of it
because instead of trying to

649
00:34:44,500 --> 00:34:47,400
focus on everything, which
allows you to focus on nothing

650
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:50,199
and just be completely
overwhelmed, you focus on a

651
00:34:50,199 --> 00:34:54,699
couple of things, get them taken
care of, and then you can

652
00:34:54,699 --> 00:34:56,800
re-evaluate and focus on the
next tier.

653
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,700
Thanks again, coming back to
what is taekwondo Master said,

654
00:34:59,700 --> 00:35:02,800
focus and finish for them.
It's focusing on finishing.

655
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:06,800
Yo doing this technique 10 times
or, you know, finish on your 10

656
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,900
push-ups or what have you In the
business world where we're

657
00:35:09,900 --> 00:35:11,500
juggling all these different
balls.

658
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:14,500
Its focus on, getting these
couple of things done, don't

659
00:35:14,500 --> 00:35:17,300
worry about anything else.
Take care of those then

660
00:35:17,500 --> 00:35:21,100
re-evaluate move forward and
that's how you can make

661
00:35:21,100 --> 00:35:24,800
consistent steady progress, even
in a chaotic environment.

662
00:35:24,900 --> 00:35:27,300
Yeah.
Now, you had mentioned, why take

663
00:35:27,300 --> 00:35:29,600
the hard path as opposed to the
easy one?

664
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,200
So I was hoping that you'd speak
to that, okay?

665
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:36,600
And here's the thing.
In every situation, we have a

666
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:41,000
choice, we make a decision.
And if you break it down all

667
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,400
decisions.
Come into basically two critical

668
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,800
paths.
There is, what is easy in the

669
00:35:45,808 --> 00:35:47,900
moment going?
What feels good.

670
00:35:47,900 --> 00:35:50,400
I'm going to eat this donut
instead of having this out.

671
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:53,300
I'm going to take the drag on
this cigarette instead of not

672
00:35:53,300 --> 00:35:55,100
doing it.
I'm going to play video games

673
00:35:55,100 --> 00:35:58,000
instead of studying for my test.
I'm not going to have that

674
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,100
difficult conversation with my
crush.

675
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,900
We're just going to, you know,
ignore this for now.

676
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:07,400
And when you do what feels good
in the moment to avoid the more

677
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,800
difficult thing.
NG what ends up happening is.

678
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,100
Yeah, you feel good.
But it's like putting a Band-Aid

679
00:36:12,100 --> 00:36:16,300
on a bullet wound or, you know,
getting that Quick Fix, You

680
00:36:16,300 --> 00:36:18,400
know, it makes you feel good in
the moment.

681
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:20,300
But, at least something slightly
worse.

682
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:21,800
And then something slightly
works.

683
00:36:21,900 --> 00:36:24,400
So if I continuously eat the
doughnuts, guess what?

684
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,500
I'm gonna have diabetes in my
pants aren't going to fit.

685
00:36:26,500 --> 00:36:28,600
I'm going to have trouble
getting out of bed and all that

686
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,800
and nine out of ten leading
cause of death in the United

687
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,400
States.
Our lifestyle diseases from at

688
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:38,200
taking that easy choice, that
feels good in the moment, okay.

689
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:41,500
Instead of taking that Easy
Choice, the other group of

690
00:36:41,500 --> 00:36:44,600
choices is the harder Choice
from a chemistry point of view,

691
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:48,000
there's higher activation
energy, it takes more work, you

692
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:51,400
know, that's going and getting
off the couch and running five

693
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:53,500
kilometers.
Instead of saying they're eating

694
00:36:53,500 --> 00:36:57,000
Cheetos, watching The Bachelor,
it is cracking the book and

695
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,500
studying so I get a better
grade.

696
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:03,300
So I get a better job as opposed
to saying there and Dorking

697
00:37:03,300 --> 00:37:07,100
around having fun in the moment
and not having a good career.

698
00:37:07,500 --> 00:37:11,800
It is the difficult discussion
with the significant other which

699
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:15,800
means that you avoid the divorce
because you're doing the hard

700
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:19,900
work on your relationship.
It is, you know, going for the

701
00:37:19,900 --> 00:37:22,400
run in the rain.
I hate running in the rain.

702
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,900
And yet, I do a regular basis
and why I'm getting out ready to

703
00:37:25,908 --> 00:37:29,200
go on out, I'm like, all right
this is going to suck.

704
00:37:29,300 --> 00:37:31,300
I'm going to get the sloggy
feed, the winds going to be in

705
00:37:31,300 --> 00:37:32,600
my face.
It's going to be horrible.

706
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:35,200
It's going to take two days for
those shoes to try out the

707
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:36,400
progress.
Stink.

708
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,200
You know, I'm gonna get Squishy
feet.

709
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:42,600
Gonna be cold, this is going to
be not fun at all, but if I do

710
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:46,500
it, I have greater reserves.
I do difficult things.

711
00:37:46,500 --> 00:37:50,000
And so it makes me stronger, it
makes things easier overall.

712
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,700
If I choose to do the thing, I
don't want to do that's more

713
00:37:52,700 --> 00:37:55,400
difficult now.
It actually leads to the easier

714
00:37:55,400 --> 00:38:00,300
path in life and so we can take
the road of convenience or we

715
00:38:00,300 --> 00:38:04,700
can take the road of Excellence.
Mmm, well, that's beautiful.

716
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:09,300
I also want to just match that
up to the The stoics point of

717
00:38:09,300 --> 00:38:13,000
view or two, if you could even
call it like a Buddhist flow

718
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,600
point of view which is more
about the relinquishing of

719
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,500
suffering by changing your
mindset towards those things,

720
00:38:19,500 --> 00:38:21,800
which would otherwise, cause you
suffering.

721
00:38:22,100 --> 00:38:24,300
And so that's another way of
looking at it.

722
00:38:24,300 --> 00:38:27,500
Because yeah, the do not all of
the things that are like more of

723
00:38:27,500 --> 00:38:31,500
the lazy choices might be in
flow with a certain mindset, but

724
00:38:31,500 --> 00:38:36,100
if you're able to level up, or
shift your mindset to know that

725
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:40,600
doing that is creating some Sort
of coping mechanism on to

726
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,700
itself.
And if you look beyond that to

727
00:38:43,700 --> 00:38:47,000
look at the longer term prize,
then you realize that's really

728
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:48,900
what I want.
That's why I'm going to get up.

729
00:38:48,900 --> 00:38:50,900
That's why I'm going to run,
that's why I'm going to do this

730
00:38:50,900 --> 00:38:53,800
in the rain.
And I actually enjoy it because

731
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,000
I know that it's going to be
more fulfilling as I'm doing it

732
00:38:57,000 --> 00:39:00,000
in doing something.
That's very challenging or you

733
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,600
know what the prize is going to
be at the end of the road and I

734
00:39:02,607 --> 00:39:06,500
love how you brought up both the
stoics and Buddhism because they

735
00:39:06,500 --> 00:39:10,400
are so related, a lot of ways.
Ways in that learn to love the

736
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:14,400
process instead of, you know,
trying to work to get that BMW

737
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,500
fall in love with the process of
working, like a martial artist,

738
00:39:18,500 --> 00:39:21,100
like, you know, you know, you
carry water chop wood.

739
00:39:21,100 --> 00:39:25,100
So you're in the moment and
enjoying it and what Jack

740
00:39:25,100 --> 00:39:29,300
LaLanne said years and years
ago, the fitness girl was they

741
00:39:29,300 --> 00:39:32,900
if you learn to love a pepper as
much as a chocolate bar, you're

742
00:39:32,900 --> 00:39:36,100
going to have a much better life
and so, you know, yeah I

743
00:39:36,100 --> 00:39:38,200
occasionally have the donut and
splurge and all that.

744
00:39:38,500 --> 00:39:41,400
Healthy and I enjoy it.
I don't need the big house.

745
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:44,700
You know, I've got my training
Hall down in the basement.

746
00:39:44,700 --> 00:39:47,300
I've got enough room for stuff,
I can go buy a sports car.

747
00:39:47,300 --> 00:39:50,900
Why do I need one?
You know, so it's being content

748
00:39:50,900 --> 00:39:54,800
with what you have or it's not
being content, it's being happy,

749
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,600
but, never content, I can
improve, but I'm improving me.

750
00:39:58,700 --> 00:40:04,300
I'm not trying to get a bigger
office or get a faster car or,

751
00:40:04,300 --> 00:40:08,000
you know more.
I'm trying to become more, and

752
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:11,400
if you You can do that, then you
always have enough.

753
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:15,200
Exactly, I'm so glad that you
also brought that up to, because

754
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:18,800
there is a difference between
being content and being happy

755
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:22,900
because being content could mean
complacency and that's not

756
00:40:22,900 --> 00:40:25,700
necessarily what this is about.
It's really about being

757
00:40:25,700 --> 00:40:29,000
satisfied with what you have,
where you are in the moment,

758
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:32,800
enjoying all of those
experiences and being eager for

759
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:36,000
more, being looking forward to
that Improvement, that you are,

760
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:37,900
continuously making in yourself
each.

761
00:40:37,900 --> 00:40:42,200
And Yeah, one of my friends, put
it as I am enough.

762
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:44,800
I'm good enough by can always be
better.

763
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:49,700
Exactly that's exactly right.
And I think that's a good Mantra

764
00:40:49,700 --> 00:40:54,500
to live by for you know as the
Stockdale Paradox says embrace

765
00:40:54,500 --> 00:40:58,100
the bitter truth but never give
up hope you know assess who you

766
00:40:58,100 --> 00:41:01,500
are understand where your
shortfalls in your strengths and

767
00:41:01,500 --> 00:41:06,000
all that and be ready to work on
making yourself better.

768
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:11,900
Not because of Any external
thing any drive like that?

769
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:16,200
But because working on yourself,
if you're doing it will give you

770
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:19,100
something that you can always
focus on.

771
00:41:19,300 --> 00:41:23,100
You can always make tiny
improvements and you can see the

772
00:41:23,100 --> 00:41:26,400
results.
And when you're doing that, you

773
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:32,800
become more joyful overall and
that has all sorts of benefits.

774
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,700
Psychologically,
relationship-wise translates

775
00:41:35,700 --> 00:41:38,100
into what we do for work
health-wise.

776
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:43,600
It will extend your longevity
and so making yourself your

777
00:41:43,700 --> 00:41:46,900
task.
Your greatest Masterpiece is

778
00:41:46,900 --> 00:41:50,100
going to have all sorts of
wonderful results and it becomes

779
00:41:50,100 --> 00:41:52,500
highly attractive.
Other people with that growth

780
00:41:52,500 --> 00:41:57,300
oriented mindset, see you and
will want to be around you and

781
00:41:57,300 --> 00:42:00,800
you'll be around like-minded.
People that want to see the best

782
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:04,500
in you the best out of you.
Yeah.

783
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:06,600
You'll find your tribe by law of
attraction.

784
00:42:07,100 --> 00:42:10,400
Exactly.
I actually want to go back to

785
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:13,100
your early days.
Because as you mentioned, when

786
00:42:13,100 --> 00:42:16,500
you were 10 years old, you had a
near-death experience and nde

787
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:18,700
and I wasn't near death.
I was dead.

788
00:42:18,900 --> 00:42:19,800
You were dead.
Okay?

789
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:21,800
So I like that Dad.
You were dead.

790
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,700
Can you tell us about that
experience?

791
00:42:25,100 --> 00:42:27,500
Sure.
So being severely, asthmatic.

792
00:42:27,500 --> 00:42:30,800
The back in the 1970s, we didn't
have the puffers that everyone

793
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,900
does now.
So basically, you'd go to the

794
00:42:32,908 --> 00:42:35,500
doctor and you get dry Nolan, go
to the hospital.

795
00:42:35,500 --> 00:42:38,500
You be stuck in an oxygen tent
and all this sort Stop.

796
00:42:38,500 --> 00:42:42,100
So I was 10 years old, I was
having an asthma attack.

797
00:42:42,100 --> 00:42:46,900
My mom brought meat stock Marie.
I'm lying there on the table and

798
00:42:46,900 --> 00:42:52,200
I was scrawny scrawny kid.
Can barely be that Mike and all

799
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:55,400
the sudden I could, you know, I
didn't have that tightness

800
00:42:55,500 --> 00:42:57,900
weightless, I'm floating on up.
There's lots of light, I'm

801
00:42:57,900 --> 00:42:59,500
looking down.
See my mom?

802
00:42:59,500 --> 00:43:01,800
She's freaking out, obviously,
dr.

803
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:03,300
Murray certainly looks like an
octopus.

804
00:43:03,300 --> 00:43:06,900
He's got all these extra arms.
He's try and do stuff.

805
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,200
And I hear the Big D.
Deep voice like James Earl

806
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:11,300
Jones, not yet Time.
Boom.

807
00:43:11,300 --> 00:43:15,000
All the sudden I'm back down my
body again and you know I'm

808
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,600
finally able to get a little air
and then they take me over the

809
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:20,600
hospital put me in the oxygen
tent and from that day forward

810
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:24,600
I've been like this.
So you attribute the way that

811
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:29,300
you are to essentially that
particular period of time.

812
00:43:29,300 --> 00:43:34,500
That particular instance I've
always been high energy but from

813
00:43:34,500 --> 00:43:38,100
that point forward it's been not
even a conscious choice.

814
00:43:38,300 --> 00:43:44,900
It's been just who I am to not
screw around to not waste time

815
00:43:45,100 --> 00:43:48,300
to maximize.
I mean, my I went and saw one of

816
00:43:48,308 --> 00:43:52,400
my friends this weekend and her
boys, my nephews and all that

817
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,300
and literally she's like, you
don't stop.

818
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:59,000
Even when you're relaxing,
you're running Ultra marathons

819
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:00,700
or you're helping other people
out.

820
00:44:00,700 --> 00:44:02,500
It's like that's just the way
that I am.

821
00:44:02,500 --> 00:44:05,700
And so my life is filled with
you stress as opposed to

822
00:44:05,700 --> 00:44:09,900
distress so you stress is
Exciting it re-energizes.

823
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:14,200
So I do a lot of very intense
thinking and mental energy and

824
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:18,200
writing for work, but then I
balance it by going and doing

825
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:21,500
something very hard physically
doing emotionally challenging

826
00:44:21,500 --> 00:44:23,800
stuff.
So by this constant, shifting of

827
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:27,900
gears and essentially using
different mindsets and skill

828
00:44:27,900 --> 00:44:30,400
sets and muscles was mental and
physical.

829
00:44:30,700 --> 00:44:32,900
You know, it's allowing the
other ones to rest.

830
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:35,900
And so, one of the things I
recommend people is, if you got

831
00:44:35,900 --> 00:44:39,900
a very physically intense job,
Your relaxation do something,

832
00:44:39,900 --> 00:44:42,000
very mentally Intense or
emotionally.

833
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:45,600
And if you got a very mentally
intense job, like an attorney

834
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:47,700
from your scientist, things like
that.

835
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,400
That's when you go do something
incredibly physical to offset it

836
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:55,500
and so it becomes almost like
active meditational, always

837
00:44:55,500 --> 00:44:58,500
allows your subconscious to
process, what you have been

838
00:44:58,500 --> 00:45:01,500
working on and relax and
recover.

839
00:45:02,700 --> 00:45:07,200
So once that situation had
occurred, did you sense that

840
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,400
there?
Was any essence of like newly

841
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:14,100
instilled purpose or something
that you almost would consider

842
00:45:14,100 --> 00:45:17,000
like a Dharma, like the you are
here for a reason.

843
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:21,100
It's not your time because and
this is what you are meant to

844
00:45:21,100 --> 00:45:22,900
accomplish.
Or this is what you're meant to

845
00:45:22,900 --> 00:45:25,600
do, in order to fulfill out your
time here, on our, right.

846
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:27,500
And you have to remember I was
10 years old.

847
00:45:27,500 --> 00:45:30,400
So what ten-year-old those what
they want to do with their life?

848
00:45:30,700 --> 00:45:32,800
Right?
You know, I was put on this

849
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,800
Earth to serve others and to
make other people better.

850
00:45:35,100 --> 00:45:38,500
I'm going to make a difference.
My goal people have I want my

851
00:45:38,500 --> 00:45:42,400
gold, the book and the book
actually is a subset of a bigger

852
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:46,700
picture is that I want to be
able to reach and help impact

853
00:45:46,700 --> 00:45:50,300
100 million people this year.
Whether it's through podcasts,

854
00:45:50,300 --> 00:45:54,600
like this articles, diorite TV,
appearances, radio, appearances,

855
00:45:54,700 --> 00:45:58,000
people actually get the book,
you know, service speeches,

856
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,700
training individuals.
If I can reach 100 million

857
00:46:00,700 --> 00:46:04,200
people and help improve their
lives, they become little nodes

858
00:46:04,300 --> 00:46:07,600
that are then transmitting out
to other people in their

859
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:10,100
community.
He's and their families and

860
00:46:10,100 --> 00:46:12,900
their businesses.
And so, if I can directly impact

861
00:46:12,900 --> 00:46:16,400
100 million, we can probably
reach billion plus people and

862
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,900
improve their lives.
That's something worth working

863
00:46:19,900 --> 00:46:24,100
towards that as an awesome btech
bi big hairy audacious goal.

864
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,000
This is gold.
Yeah.

865
00:46:26,700 --> 00:46:30,000
And so you know we are going
through some unprecedented times

866
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,200
right now.
Well it's just like the antonine

867
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:34,900
plague back in.
You know you think Marcus

868
00:46:34,900 --> 00:46:38,000
Aurelius just like the 1970s all
over again?

869
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:40,500
In a lot of ways.
So you know what we've done

870
00:46:40,500 --> 00:46:43,900
here.
We've done that yet.

871
00:46:43,900 --> 00:46:46,500
I find that interestingly
enough.

872
00:46:46,500 --> 00:46:50,800
We still haven't really learned
how to manage ourselves through

873
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:53,600
some of these, you know, Global
situations.

874
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:57,900
Whether it be a pandemic of
disease or whether it be a

875
00:46:57,900 --> 00:47:03,100
pandemic of racism or whether it
be a pandemic of intolerance of

876
00:47:03,100 --> 00:47:05,500
any kind.
What would you were still

877
00:47:05,500 --> 00:47:08,700
stupid?
The unfortunately, we are still

878
00:47:08,700 --> 00:47:11,000
big dumb animals in a lot of
ways.

879
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:17,200
We are naturally attracted to
individuals like us because is

880
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:19,700
subconscious makes us feel more
comfortable.

881
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:23,100
And really we need to remember
that.

882
00:47:23,300 --> 00:47:25,700
What genetically separates you
from me?

883
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:31,500
Is almost nothing.
And so the anecdote to fear is

884
00:47:31,500 --> 00:47:33,900
exposure.
If you got fear of spiders you

885
00:47:33,900 --> 00:47:35,900
know what do we need to do?
We need to look at pictures of

886
00:47:35,900 --> 00:47:38,000
spiders and then be in the same
room with a spy.

887
00:47:38,500 --> 00:47:41,900
And get close to a spider and
you not freak out.

888
00:47:41,900 --> 00:47:45,500
If you've got a fear of somebody
who looks different, we need to

889
00:47:45,500 --> 00:47:47,700
have you communicate with them.
We need to have.

890
00:47:47,700 --> 00:47:50,300
You talked to him, we need you
them to understand.

891
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:55,400
We're all humans, and we have
more alike than what separates

892
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,200
them.
And maybe it's because I grew up

893
00:47:57,200 --> 00:48:01,900
Community, where we were all
relatively not, well, off

894
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:04,600
financially.
So it didn't matter your skin

895
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,700
color, or your race, or anything
else.

896
00:48:08,100 --> 00:48:11,200
We were just all people and you
know, my best friend, it was

897
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:16,400
originally from Vietnam.
I mean her dad was a major in

898
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:20,600
the South Vietnamese Army and so
my sister, my favorite sister

899
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:24,200
who I talk to every single day
you know and her dad loved me,

900
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:27,200
more than he loves her and my
mom always loved.

901
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:30,200
See, I'm when she loved me and
so that's just the way it is.

902
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,500
That's my sister, okay.
And her kid brother is my

903
00:48:32,500 --> 00:48:37,200
brother so it doesn't matter.
Yo what color hair somebody has

904
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:40,600
or how much melon An engineer
system or the shape of their

905
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,900
eyes, or he'll, if somebody's
Buddhist and somebody's

906
00:48:43,900 --> 00:48:47,800
Catholic, or what have you in
the end, we are still humans.

907
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:51,200
We are all brothers and sisters,
and cousins that works and so

908
00:48:51,500 --> 00:48:54,000
deal with it open up.
Learn from each other.

909
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:57,600
Yeah, and my Dharma is, it's the
human Beauty movement and

910
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:00,800
bringing people together.
And the thing that I always am

911
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:04,900
pondering is the concept of the
algorithm and the fact that, you

912
00:49:04,900 --> 00:49:06,800
know, there is this concept of
in the end it's always a

913
00:49:06,808 --> 00:49:08,800
two-horse race.
It's always the US versus them.

914
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,100
It's always black versus white,
it's always good versus evil.

915
00:49:11,100 --> 00:49:14,000
It's always a journey of the or
of the oars.

916
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:17,300
And unfortunately, what happens
with the, you know, the power of

917
00:49:17,300 --> 00:49:20,500
the algorithm, it's like it's
creating polarity, it creates a

918
00:49:20,508 --> 00:49:24,500
divide and it creates a stance
in which like we are always

919
00:49:24,500 --> 00:49:26,300
going to be right?
No, we are always going to be

920
00:49:26,300 --> 00:49:27,800
right?
And then the two are never going

921
00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:31,900
to agree.
So how do we from a poetic

922
00:49:31,900 --> 00:49:35,000
philosophical or physical
physics Way?

923
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:38,500
Start thinking about the
solution to Bringing People

924
00:49:38,500 --> 00:49:43,200
together as so it's not a binary
solution which is how everybody

925
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:47,900
looks at things either 1 or 0 K.
If you look visible light is a

926
00:49:47,908 --> 00:49:52,500
spectrum going from five hundred
and twenty nanometers up to 700

927
00:49:52,500 --> 00:49:54,800
ish, okay?
And there's Shades, you can't

928
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:56,800
tell where orange ends and ride
begins.

929
00:49:56,800 --> 00:50:02,700
Okay, so have this understanding
and have this perspective and

930
00:50:02,700 --> 00:50:05,200
perception that, okay?
We're just seeing in slightly

931
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:08,400
different colors, but we're
looking at the same Nominal,

932
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:09,700
we're looking at these same
things.

933
00:50:09,900 --> 00:50:14,000
Let's try and understand, and
I'm reference the tyranny of the

934
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:18,600
or as opposed to the beauty of
the and know we can be this and

935
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:23,400
this yo we can have Traditional
Values and allow people to be

936
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:27,600
human beings and be themselves.
Okay, so expanding our concept

937
00:50:27,600 --> 00:50:31,300
and remembering in the end that
when the aliens come on down,

938
00:50:31,300 --> 00:50:33,700
invade like an Independence Day.
Guess what?

939
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:36,900
It's US versus them.
It's not you versus me or

940
00:50:38,100 --> 00:50:43,000
Inspiration.
It's, it's us against the

941
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:48,300
universe or us on the same team
to be able to make the world a

942
00:50:48,300 --> 00:50:52,800
better place because that you
know, I'm right, you're wrong.

943
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:55,900
You're wrong.
I'm right, that dichotomy is

944
00:50:55,900 --> 00:51:01,200
based upon zero-sum game mindset
as opposed to having an

945
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:03,600
abundance mentality.
And hey, let's work together.

946
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:06,200
You've got some ideas, I've got
some ideas, we're not going to

947
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:07,900
agree on everything.
We're not going to disagree.

948
00:51:08,100 --> 00:51:11,700
On everything we've got this
Venn diagram of overlap of

949
00:51:11,700 --> 00:51:13,600
concept.
Let's see what we can do

950
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:17,200
together to.
Then improve things because if

951
00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:21,700
you, and I can sit down and swap
some ideas and work together, we

952
00:51:21,700 --> 00:51:24,700
can expand the pie from 100 to
120.

953
00:51:24,900 --> 00:51:28,200
And even if my share of it
becomes slightly smaller, I've

954
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:31,900
got a slightly smaller share of
a bigger portion and as such,

955
00:51:31,900 --> 00:51:37,200
I'm still better off and there's
that, and then there's no longer

956
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:40,500
participating.
The social media and the

957
00:51:40,500 --> 00:51:43,400
Instagram and Tick-Tock and say,
oh look at them, they're so

958
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,000
perfect.
They are, they've got no

959
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:47,700
worries.
I need to be just like them.

960
00:51:47,700 --> 00:51:50,800
And, you know, fueling all this
anxiety and fear of missing out

961
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:53,500
and trying to be like the
Joneses since that's all

962
00:51:53,500 --> 00:51:56,900
external.
And instead, Focus, internal

963
00:51:57,100 --> 00:51:59,700
learn from other people.
Appreciate what they have.

964
00:51:59,700 --> 00:52:06,100
Use them to inspire you, but not
become jealous and hateful over

965
00:52:06,100 --> 00:52:08,300
it.
And then just become A better

966
00:52:08,300 --> 00:52:11,400
version of you.
And if more people focused on

967
00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:13,700
being the best version of them
that they could be, we'd be a

968
00:52:13,700 --> 00:52:15,500
much better place.
Absolutely.

969
00:52:15,500 --> 00:52:18,200
It all starts from the
individual and that's why I

970
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:22,500
believe in the power of touching
individuals and letting them see

971
00:52:22,500 --> 00:52:25,200
their worth.
Letting them see their Divinity

972
00:52:25,300 --> 00:52:29,700
from within so that there's less
of a tendency for comparison and

973
00:52:29,700 --> 00:52:33,700
for resentment and for jealousy
because all of that like the

974
00:52:33,700 --> 00:52:36,600
seeking of external validation,
external, validation is nice.

975
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:39,800
Everybody likes the complement
of Arse but it's not that you.

976
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:44,600
If you feed off in you need it.
If that is your existence then

977
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:47,300
you become a vampire.
You talk about energy, vampires

978
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:50,600
that becomes a psychic vampire,
that becomes ultimately the path

979
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:53,900
to narcissism and, you know,
there's nothing good that comes

980
00:52:53,900 --> 00:52:56,200
out.
That's an extract of sort of

981
00:52:56,200 --> 00:53:02,100
relationship as opposed to a
creative symbiotic where we can

982
00:53:02,300 --> 00:53:05,400
make each other better.
Instead of I need to draw from

983
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:06,600
you.
Exactly.

984
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,300
Exactly.
Well, So you've had such words

985
00:53:09,300 --> 00:53:13,200
of wisdom for us today.
I'm so glad that you came on as

986
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:17,300
a role models guest, thank you
for all your words, and here's

987
00:53:17,300 --> 00:53:20,300
to changing the lives of 100
million people this year for

988
00:53:20,300 --> 00:53:22,500
you.
I am rooting for you Jennifer.

989
00:53:22,500 --> 00:53:25,100
Thank you.
This has been an absolute blast.

990
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:26,900
I learned a lot on better for
you.

991
00:53:26,900 --> 00:53:29,300
Make me laugh and smile.
You improved my day.

992
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:32,900
Yeah, excellent and grow today.
Thank you so much.